Marriage is
a Private Affair
by
Chinua Achebe
(Summary & Analysis)
Born in 1930 Chinua Achebe is one of
the most reputed writers of fiction of African Literature. His versatile mind
has found expression in diverse spheres of activity. He joined the Nigerian
Broadcasting Corporation in 1954 and has worked at the institute of African
Studies at Nsukka. He also distinguished himself as a poet. His collection of
poems, Beware Soul Brothers, won the commonwealth poetry prize in 1972. Achebe
is the central figure in the field of fiction writing. His popular novels are
Things Fall Apart (1958), No Longer at Ease (1960), Arrow of God (1964) and A
man of the people (1966).
Summary
The story opens in the city of Lagos
with Nene and Nnaemeka talking over the issue of their recent engagement. Nene
wants him to write a letter to his father and inform him about it but Nnaemeka
wants to do it personally when he goes to his village during the vacation
because he is sure that his father will not like this news.
Nene has lived in Lagos since her
childhood, and so she doesn’t know much about people in remote parts of the
country. Nnaemeka is aware of the fact that just like elsewhere, in his village
also a person’s tribe determines whom he married that too only with the consent
of his parents. He tries to explain things to Nene but she doesn’t understand and
leaves it to Nnaemeka.
On his way back, Nnaemeka again reads
out the letter he has recently received from his father stating, that he had
chosen a girl, Ugoye Nweke for him. Nnaemeka has known this girl since
childhood and he smiled, as he thought of this naughty girl, Ugoye Nweke, who
used to beat boys in the school. His father was happy with his choice, because
Ugoye had a proper Christian upbringing and good character.
The story then takes a leap, as
Nnaemeka has come to his native village during the vacation. He asks for
forgiveness from his father, as it is impossible for him to marry Ugoye. He
discloses to his father, his relationship with Nene Atang, with whom he plans
to marry. His father is so shocked by this news that instead of bursting out in
anger, as is his nature, he becomes absolutely silent.
Next day the father tries to make him
understand the ill effects of marriage outside one’s tribe, calling it devil’s
work. Nnaemeka comes back with a sad heart, hoping, that one day his father’s
traditional views will change.
Nnaemeka was the first in his village
to marry a girl from a different tribe and that is why his father gets
concerned even though he himself doesn’t believe in the superstitious beliefs,
like other villagers.
All the villagers gathered around Okeke
and expressed concern over this strange act of his son, which they considered
‘the beginning of the end’. They were sure, that the boy’s mind was diseased
and must be treated by an herbalist. But Okeke did not believe in the
superstitions prevalent in the village. The villagers also discussed their
local herbalist who was killed by his own medicine.
Despite all this, Nnaemeka and Nene got
married. The story moves further six months and they receive a letter from
Okeke, in which he shows his annoyance and anger by cutting the wedding picture
sent by his son. He declares his rejection of Nene also. This letter hurts them
terribly but Nnaemeka is still hopeful, that his father’s basic good nature
will change his views one day.
As time passes by, the Ibo friends of
Nnaemeka realize, that their married life is very good. They now understand,
that for marriage, love and understanding are required and not the same tribe.
News of their being one of the happiest couple’s reaches the village also. But
no one dares to talk to Okeke about it. He had made great efforts to forget Nnaemeka,
although it had been very painful for him.
Then one day Okeke received a letter
from Nene. Unwillingly he reads it. Nene informs him, that he has two grandsons
and both are now grownup. Every day, they ask for their grandfather and Nene
writes, that she doesn’t know, what reply she must give to them. She earnestly
requests him to allow them to meet him along with Nnaemeka during the coming
vacation and that she herself would not come.
This letter greatly moves Okeke. All
these years he had hardened himself but today at the thought of his grandsons,
his heart melts. He feels, that he had done great injustice to them and now he
must open the door of his house for them, i.e., open his heart for them.
Analysis
Marriage Is a Private Affair by Chinua
Achebe tells a story of Nnaemeka. Nnaemeka is having a conversation with his
lover, Nene. Nene is pleading Nnaemeka, to inform his father about their plans
to marry. However, Nnaemeka is somehow averse because he knows his father won’t
accept a woman outside the Ibo community.
Nnaemeka receives a letter from his
father, Okeke, notifying him about Ugoye, a devout Christian, whom he has
chosen for him to marry. Later, Nnaemeka travels to his village to have a
conversation with his father. During this time, Nnaemeka confesses to his
father, that he doesn’t want to marry Ugoye. Instead, Nnaemeka tells his father
about Nene, a city girl whom he intends to marry. Okeke is appalled by his
son’s decision believing it is the work of a devil.
Nevertheless, Okeke is further angered,
when he learns, that Nene comes from a different community. He leaves the
conversation mid-way and refuses to eat supper. Nnaemeka goes ahead and marries
Nene without his father’s consent. Several years later, Okeke is struggling to
come to terms with his son’s decision. However, he feels guilty, when Nene
sends him a letter informing him about his grandsons’ desire to meet him. The
novel indicates the different cultures between rural and city areas. Nene’s
beliefs and thoughts are different from those of the Ibo community. The
marriage between Nnaemeka and Nene shows that love is essentially beyond customs.
In the story, we have the theme of
modernity, tradition, control, conflict, stubbornness, gender roles,
independence, change and remorse. The story is narrated in the third person by
an unnamed narrator and from the beginning of the story the reader realizes,
that Achebe may be exploring the theme of modernity and tradition. Though both
Nnaemeka and Nene live in Lagos, a modern city in Nigeria, Nnaemeka is very
much aware of the importance of tradition particularly when it comes to his
father Okeke, who has arranged for Nnaemeka to marry a girl, from his village
despite the fact, that Nnaemeka is due to marry Nene. There is also a sense,
that Nnaemeka wishes to control his own life (and destiny) rather than follow
the traditions that his father abides to.
Throughout the story Okeke also shows
signs of being stubborn. Refusing to even acknowledge Nene either before or
after she marries Nnaemeka. So deep is his dislike for Nene that he returns the
wedding photo sent to him by Nnaemeka with Nene’s image removed from the
photograph. It suggests, that Okeke does not give any recognition to Nene. As
far as he is concerned, she does not exist and is not Nnaemeka’s wife. Which
would further highlight to the reader just how important tradition is to Okeke.
What is also interesting about the
story, is that the women of the village are silent. The only woman in the story
who has an independent voice is Nene and she does not live in the village. No
equality may exist between male and female within the village. The reality
being that life in the village may revolve around traditional gender roles with
the male being dominant. Whereas in Lagos Nene as mentioned has her own voice
and is not hindered by Nnaemeka. She is allowed to express herself.
The end of the story becomes interesting,
when Okeke discovers, that he has two grandchildren, his view of Nnaemeka and
Nene’s marriage changes dramatically. No longer is he against the marriage and
it is noticeable that Okeke begins to fear that his isolation of Nene has
resulted in him also shutting out his grandchildren from his life. It may also
be symbolically significant that it is raining when Okeke beings to change his
opinion on Nnaemeka and Nene’s marriage. Quite often in literature a writer will
use the rain as symbol for change or renewal and this seems to be very much the
case in the story. At the end of the story, there is a sense, that not only has
Okeke changed his views on Nnaemeka and Nene’s marriage but he may also have
changed as a person.
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